My beautiful but rather brainless girlfriend went to the clinic today and they confirmed that she is pregnant, though since she has no clue as the date of her last period, they can only guess she is at 9 weeks in pregnancy. Probably more like 6 weeks by my calendar. The quantitative blood pregnancy test will give a more accurate date. Anyway, I am really struggling with the idea of being a parent with someone who is really so immature. She’s 33 years old, and needs my help with everything. If she gets a parking ticket, I have to remind her to pay it, usually give the money too. I wrote most of her papers for a recent college course. I have had to explain the basics of how to pay taxes…. how to get her car fixed… credit card fees… god the list goes on and on. She gets fired from her jobs for incompetence. Her lovely smile solves most of her problems … but not all. Pregnancy will deliver the biggest challenge of her life. Do I think she’s up for it ? Hard to say. I am just so worried that I will be raising her, along with our baby. Will this be too much for me to handle ??? I really want a partner in life, not a slow-to-mature woman who has the life experience of a 22 year old. (I am in my forties). She was refreshing and child-like at a time when I needed someone like that in my life. But now… am I doing her any favors by getting her pregnant ? Should a person who has so much to learn in life be burdened with a child ? I dunno. The whole idea of being a Dad right now is so depressing. I should feel overjoyed at the first child in my life, but I am not. And just for the record, I am not religious in any fashion whatsoever. I want to make this decision on what’s best for my girlfriend. I don’t want her to face raising a child alone; I want to be a good husband and provider, but if this is beyond the limits of my patience, then I will say with a measure of sadness in my heart that it’s best we get the abortion. What do you think ?
Just to reiterate, I do care quite a bit for this woman. Birth control was indeed absent from our minds one night — mistake mostly mine. If my words sound callous, so be it, but I do not want to burden her unnecessarily. Yes the decision is hers, but she will listen closely to what I say. I am most concerned about her future, and her happiness.
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Fri, Sep 3, 2010
September 3rd, 2010 at 11:28 am
Wow that’s tough. I’m surprised that a 33 year old woman would not be mature enough to even have a child but I guess with all the other things that burden you in the relationship I can see why the idea of becoming a father is so daunting.
She has to realize that becoming a parent is the biggest obstacle you take on in your entire life. You also have to realize it but just because you feel your not ready it might end up being a blessing in disguise. Seeing that you are in your 40′s…you have to understand that you are not getting any younger but older and if you ever want to be a parent it has to happen at some point, right?
Sometimes having a child alters your life in so many ways and you end up realizing that it can be the best thing that ever happened to you or the worst. I can say it changed my life. Hope that helps and Good luck!
September 3rd, 2010 at 11:28 am
You’re kidding. Did you just describe your girlfriend as "brainless"? I guess she’s your "girlfriend" because it was easy to take advantage of her.
And no, you can’t make any decision for her. Only she can make the decision because it’s her body. Suck it up and deal with the consequences.
And don’t say that’s it’s best that "we" get the abortion. You’re not going to be the one laying down on the operating table. SHE would be the one, so shut up and stop trying to "relate" to her in this situation. Men like you are disgusting.
September 3rd, 2010 at 11:28 am
Well you knew the type of person she was before she was pregnant, you probably hoped she would change but hasn’t so far. My opinion is to have the baby and see if she matures, maybe she will maybe she wont. If its to much for you and her put your baby up for adoption there are millions of loving couples who want children and cant have them.
September 3rd, 2010 at 11:28 am
Well maybe having a baby will change her and make her snap into reality. I personally don’t think it is fair just because you don’t want to have to raise a baby and her that it should be aborted. I had my first sono at 8.5 weeks and I saw a little mini baby! I saw the heart beating and the arm and leg buds!! It would be heart breaking to think to abort her. That is just my personal opinion.
Maybe you should also sit down with her and be like you know you are pregnant now. You have a little person inside of you and you need to set a good example for him/her. It’s time to grow up and be responsible!
September 3rd, 2010 at 11:28 am
shes 33 and can’t handle having a child……….?
and how selfish thinking a abortion is the best choice… she is WAYYYY old enough to know about BIRTH CONTROL.
If you guys didn’t think you could handle a baby, and didn’t use birth control at this age its sad. Don’t have sex if you can’t handle what happens from it!!!!!
Give the baby up for adoption, a lot of people want babies that can’t have them, don’t kill a child because your THIRTY THREE year old girlfriend is immature.
September 3rd, 2010 at 6:43 pm
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